When you have two girls and no boys like in my family, people assume you’re not okay with only girls…that there must be a child of each gender to have the “perfect” family.
We’re told we should try for a third baby to get a boy (as if we can put in an order). Some say that a man should have a son – and if my husband says otherwise then he doesn’t really mean it or that he’s just saying it to appease me.
This can be furthest from the truth. My husband and I have discussed how much we love having girls, and we’re perfectly fine having two girls and no boys.
I’m a SheKnows Expert for SheKnows Media, the owners of BlogHer, and today my post on this topic is featured. Here’s an excerpt:
“My husband and I discussed how great it would be for our daughter to have a little sister — a mini her and our daughter 2.0. After all, I’ve experienced sisterly love firsthand — my older sister and I are best friends. We guided each other while growing up and still do so today. I imagined that type of relationship between my own children.”
I then go into details about a specific incident that reflects what some people believe though not all have the gall to come right out and say it. I’ll let you read the whole conversation in the post, but here’s an excerpt of my reaction to it:
“I did not like this conversation and had no energy to fight, so I excused myself and went into the bathroom, fuming about what had just happened. How dare she be so dismissive, as if she knew my husband better than me? It’s not like we could choose our baby’s gender anyway. Why is it so hard to believe that a man can prefer having only daughters?”
Read the entire post on SheKnows.com: Stop Assuming My Husband Secretly Wishes He Had Sons
Has something similar ever happened to you? Perhaps it was getting pressured to have a girl after having a boy, or that having more kids was only one spouses idea? Let us know in the comments!